Notes to self: Being single is fun!

Girls who say they're happy being single are often thought to be deluding themselves. After all, who would shun having a shoulder to cry on, someone to cuddle up to after a bad day at work or someone to cook you lovely dinners just because they think you're great?

I've had times when I've had boyfriends (none of them ever cooked for me, though) and I've had many, many times that I've been single — and I can honestly say that I am at my happiest now. As single as single can be.

Relationships can be lovely. But they can also be boring. I love my friends to bits, but we all have a few people on our Facebook timeline who just won't stop going on about how excited they are about choosing their wedding favours in three years' time. I can't say it fills me with envy. Even if David Gandy (Google him — you won't regret it) told me he wanted a fairytale wedding with me, I just couldn't get excited about choosing a dress or debating whether to have a DJ or a band.

If my loved-up friends are anything to go by, relationships involve a lot of staying at home. Or, if they DO go out, they sit in movie halls or go on refined dinner dates. Right now, I can think of other things I'd rather be doing. And I can certainly think of better things to spend my money and time than saving up for a house deposit or choosing wedding invitations. In fact, I hope I can always find more interesting things to do than that.

I go on dates and I notice beautiful barmen and muscular fitness instructors. I like being taken out to dinner and going for movies with them. I like getting to know them. But I also like the fact that I don't have to bother calling them if I'm not in the mood. Or that I can cycle to Singapore from Bangkok for three weeks without asking anyone. I can go out dancing all night, stay at a friend's house and not have to justify to anyone where I've been.

Yes, I'm approaching 30, but one of my favourite pastimes is to go and watch the toned Thai fire-dancers performing on the beach. Today I'll spend the day working, going to a fashion opening and then having dinner with a friend who's visiting from Singapore. Tomorrow will be just as busy when I go to the gym, have lunch with some other friends and head out to a salsa bar for dancing.

So being single isn't the sad state of affairs people think it is. OK, if the right man came along, I would be happy to try and make things work, but at the moment only the wrong ones seem to be coming along, and, quite frankly, I would rather go out with my friends than spend time with men who are stupid/boring/unambitious/cheating/whatever other problems they may have.

There's been the married Kuwaiti, the dull Thai guy who had three or four girlfriends (in Thailand it's normal to have a few girlfriends — they are called "gigs", but it still doesn't make it any more pleasant to be one) and some other guys who were equally unsuitable.

A lot of Western girls here get frustrated about how hard it is to meet a nice man. Sometimes it's got me down, but I have decided to have the best fun I can while I have no commitments. That's why I'm booking flights to Bali today. It's also why I've decided to spend May focusing on my fitness and not dating hopeless men. If someone great wants to sweep me off my feet, he'll have to find me in the gym. If he wants to take me on a bad date and cheat on me, I don't think he'll bother coming and looking for me. It will save everyone a lot of trouble.

And if someone thinks they can slot into my lifestyle, it would be great — but until then, I am not changing a thing.