Father in anguish as 2 US children trapped in Syria
Their mother took them to Syria when they were aged 4, and 10 months
BEIRUT: As US-backed forces assault the final bastion of Daesh in Syria, two American children may be stuck inside, their father fears.
“I am praying to my God that they will return to me,” said the father, Bashirul Shikder. “They are innocent. I am just hoping.”
Four years ago, his wife fled their Florida home to join Daesh and took their two children with her. She was killed in an airstrike, but the children are believed to be in Baghuz, the last village held by Daesh in Syria.
As the yearlong battle to destroy the Daesh’s self-proclaimed caliphate draws to an end, Western governments have struggled to deal with citizens who joined the terrorist organisation. The family of Shamima Begum, who left for Syria as a teenager, has said the British government intends to revoke her citizenship, and President Donald Trump has vowed not to let Hoda Muthana, an American-born woman, return to the United States.
But Shikder’s ordeal raises the question of what happens to children who ended up in Daesh territory through no fault of their own.
Shikder, 38, told his story in phone calls from Iraq and Florida, and two lawyers involved in his case corroborated his account.
“Mr. Shikder is a religious Muslim, but he is also very much an American,” said Charles D. Swift, director of the Constitutional Law Center for Muslims in America, who is helping Shikder. “He believes in America and in the ideals of America.”
Born in Bangladesh, Shikder moved to Canada as a young man, before immigrating to the United States and becoming a citizen a decade ago. He married a Bangladeshi-born American woman, Rashida Sumaiya, and had two children, Yusuf, a boy, and Zahra, a girl.
They lived near Miami, where he works in information technology, he said. He and his wife liked to play chess and badminton and hold barbecues in Miami Beach.
But his life was upended in March 2015, when he left for a pilgrimage to Makkah. His wife was supposed to take the children to visit her parents in Orlando, he said. But when she stopped responding to his texts, he began to worry.
After days of silence, he reached her parents, who said she and the children were gone but refused to say more, he said. So he contacted the FBI and returned to Florida, learning that his wife, their children, then 4 and 10 months old, and his wife’s sister, had flown to Turkey to cross into Syria to join Daesh.
A few weeks later, he received a call from Syria while he was driving on the freeway, he said. A man with a British accent asked him whether he was the father of Yusuf and Zahra. Shikder said yes and asked where they were.
“In the Islamic State [Daesh],” he said the man told him.
He gave Shikder one month to join them in Syria or said his wife and children would be taken away from him.
Later, he received messages asking him to send money or telling him to join the family in Syria, appeals he was not sure were from his wife or from someone else using her phone, he said. He refused to send money, having been advised that it could violate the American law against providing material support to a terrorist group.
In 2016, he received a document from a Daesh court divorcing him from his wife. The document said his wife had asked for a divorce because Shikder lived in “the land of disbelief (America),” had refused to move to Daesh and had not sent money to his wife.
He later learned that his wife had remarried and given birth to a daughter, and sometime later that her new husband had been killed, he said.
He last spoke to Sumaiya in December, he said. He told her that her father had died in the United States, and she spoke of a nearby airstrike that had terrified the children. In January, his sister-in-law told him that his wife had been killed in an airstrike and that the three children had been burnt in the blast.
The sister-in-law got in touch one more time, on Feb. 4, and said the children’s wounds were healing, Shikder said. That was the last he heard from her.
Last month, Shikder received word that his children had been found in a refugee camp in eastern Syria, so he flew to northern Iraq, intending to cross the border to retrieve them. But it turned out to be a false report, so he returned to Florida last week.
Clive Stafford Smith, a British human rights lawyer who is helping Shikder, says he has confirmed, through contacts he has with people whose relatives are in the village, that the children are alive and in Baghuz, in the care of a British woman who is reluctant to surrender.
Shikder is an observant Muslim who does not drink or smoke, prays regularly and wears a long black beard with a trim moustache. His own faith compounded his horror at the jihadis’ actions, he said.
“I do everything that Islam tells you to do, but my Islam did not tell me to do what they did,” he said.
He said he struggled to determine how much his wife had embraced their message.
“Sometimes I was feeling that she was stuck,” he said. “Sometimes I was feeling that she was believing what she was doing.”
Yusuf is now 8, Zahra is 4, and his wife’s other daughter, Safyah, is about 18 months old. His lawyers believe she can claim American citizenship through her mother, and Shikder has offered to adopt her.
But it remains unclear whether the children will make it out of Syria.
As he waits, Shikder prays, and tries to stay hopeful that his children will be saved.
“Everything is making me worried,” he said.
—New York Times News Service