Surname standoff: Shanghai couple divorces over son's last name

Dubai: A surname dispute in Shanghai, China, has led to the divorce of a couple identified only by their surnames, Shao and Ji. According to the South China Morning Post, the conflict arose when Ji insisted that their second child, a son born in 2021, take her surname instead of Shao's. Their first child, a daughter born in 2019, had already taken Shao's name.

Despite Shao's repeated requests for their son's surname to be changed to his, Ji stood firm, leading to incompatible differences and their eventual divorce in 2023. Post-separation, both children remained with Ji. Shao attempted to gain custody of their daughter while relinquishing any claim over their son, but Ji was adamant about keeping both children.

The case went to court, where Ji was awarded full custody, a decision based on the principle that the children's "best interests" are paramount in Chinese custody disputes. This generally leans towards the mother unless the father can convincingly demonstrate superior suitability for caregiving. Unsatisfied with the initial ruling, Shao appealed but was denied by a higher court. He was subsequently ordered to provide child support until the children reach the age of 18.

This case highlights the cultural and legal complexities surrounding surnames and custody in China, where traditional norms clash with modern family dynamics.