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Afnan, 6, holds a picture of her father Bandar Al Hassani, who was killed in a US drone strike last year sits betwee her grandparents Omar Al Hassani, and Khadija Hassan. Beside Bandar, Al Hassanis lost two more sons, one in another US drone strike in 2013 and third during fighting between Al Qaida militants and government forces in 2012. AP Image Credit: AP

Sana’a: Abeer Al Hassani’s ex-husband was famed for his beautiful voice. He used it, she says, singing poetic hymns to martyrdom and jihad to try to draw youth from their neighbourhood of the Yemeni capital into joining Al Qaida. He sang at weddings of fellow members of the terror group, and held discussions with young men at local mosques.

“One woman complained to me that her son wanted to go fight in Iraq after speaking with him,” the 25-year-old Abeer recalled in an interview with The Associated Press.

For most of her young life, Abeer has been entangled with Al Qaida through family bonds she has tried to shake off. Three of her brothers became fighters for the group, and all three are now dead, two of them killed by US drone strikes on consecutive days in January 2013.

Her story provides a rare look into one of the most dangerous branches of the terror network, which has withstood successive blows and yet continues to thrive. It has moved to fuelling conflict elsewhere in the region, sending fighters and expertise to Syria and to Egypt’s Sinai Peninsula.

Her ex-husband, Omar Al Hebishi, backed up his recruiting with cash. During their four-year marriage, she says, he received large bank transfers or cash delivered overland from Saudi Arabia — money, he told her, that was to support the families of “martyrs.” She and Al Hebishi divorced in 2010.

A month ago, he left for Syria to fight alongside Al Qaida-inspired extremists — but not before trying to recruit the older of their two sons, 8-year-old Aws, to come with him by showing the boy videos of Al Qaida fighters jogging and swimming.

“Mom, I want to go because they have a swimming pool,” Aws told her, Abeer said.

Abeer’s tale illustrates the pull that Al Qaida has in a society where poverty is rife, the population is deeply conservative and many resent a corrupt government and abuses by security forces.

“I can guarantee you that my two sons, Aws and Hamza, will follow in the footsteps of their father if we stay in Yemen,” Abeer said. “We need to get out of Yemen.”

Diminutive and soft-spoken, wearing an enveloping black niqab veil and robes that leave only her large dark eyes visible, Abeer has lived under the full weight of Yemen’s patriarchal society. She was first married off at the age of 15, but she kept running away from her husband, so they divorced after only a month.

Soon after, her older brother Bandar brought home a new husband for her — Al Hebishi, a man 20 years her senior.

Al Hebishi, known by his nom de guerre Abu Osayed Al Madani, is renowned in extremist circles as a “munshid,” or singer of Islamic hymns and anthems. His voice is often heard singing in Al Qaida propaganda videos showing footage from their attacks and of martyrs. The Yemeni security officials confirmed to AP that he works in the media branch of Al Qaida in the Arabian Peninsula.

A veteran jihadi who fought in Bosnia in the 1990s, he was a secretive man who didn’t like having his picture taken, Abeer said. She showed one of the few photos she has of him — their wedding picture, where he stands grim-faced. “He was unhappy my mother was photographing him,” she said.

“He was so courteous and convincing when he spoke to teenagers he wanted to recruit,” said Abeer. In one case, she said, he used the money he received to buy a car and house for a Yemeni who lost both his legs while fighting alongside militants in Iraq, she said.

At home, she said, he was abusive, striking her and the children. After their divorce, her brothers forced her at one point to hand custody of their sons to Al Hebishi. During the time they were with him, Al Hebishi told her he burnt matches on their younger son, Hamza, as part of his toilet training, Abeer said, showing photos of her son with the burns.

She said she received word two weeks ago that her ex-husband was now in Syria.

In recent weeks, militant supporters have proclaimed in messages on Twitter and on militant websites that “the munshid Abu Osayed Al Madani” has come to Syria and joined the Islamic State of Iraq and the Levant, one of the most hardline groups fighting in that country’s civil war. Al Qaida’s central command broke off ties with the Islamic State in February, accusing it of causing strife with rival militants in Syria amid increasing infighting among them.

A Twitter account in the name of Abu Osayed Al Madani, apparently belonging to her ex-husband, is full of tweets from Syria about the conflict. Among them are appeals for reconciliation between Al Qaida and the Islamic State.

During and after her marriage, Abeer watched helplessly as her three brothers, Bandar, Abdullah and Abdul Majid, were drawn one by one into Al Qaida.

Bandar, seven years older than Abeer, was detained by the Political Security Agency for two years. When he emerged in 2006 he had become more religious — indoctrinated by militants he was jailed with, Abeer says. For the next years, he associated with Al Qaida members, while security agents harassed him, trying to turn him into an informant.

In 2009, Abdul Majid, who was 16 at the time, was also arrested. He was held for three years, often in a cell with hardened militant fighters.

At about the same time, Abdullah — who was two years younger than Abeer, disappeared from home to join Al Qaida.

When the popular uprising against Ali Abdullah Saleh began in 2011, Bandar left home for the mountainous central province of Marib to join Al Qaida fighters, she said.

The following year, Abdul Majid was released from prison. The younger brother who loved dancing as a teen was now bitter.

“He only spoke about how much he wanted to blow himself up in the middle of Yemeni soldiers,” Abeer said.

She pleaded with him to stay at home, but after three days, Abdul Majid left to Marib to join his brother. From there, he went to the nearby province of Al Jawf for training in Al Qaida camps, Abeer said.

Bandar was killed by a drone strike in Marib on January 20, 2013. The next day, a strike in Al Jawf killed Abdul Majid. Security officials confirmed the circumstances of their deaths to the AP.

Abeer saw her brother Abdullah once before his death, in 2012.

She and her mother drove 19 hours to visit him in a village near Al Jaar, one of the southern cities that Al Qaida took over. Abdullah was there helping treat wounded fighters.

She was there for two days, and most of it she spent arguing with her brother. Abdullah tried to recruit her, offering her fellow fighters to marry so she could become a “mujaheda,” meaning she would cook and clean for the fighters. She argued back that Al Qaida defames Islam, that its fighters cut off the hands of thieves and execute people without really knowing if they are guilty.

Abdullah tried to convince her of the beauty of jihad. He told her fighters smile when they die, knowing they are entering paradise — militant videos and photos often show the corpses of martyrs with blissful smiles on their face.

“I just get depressed when I see their videos,” Abeer said.

It was their first meeting in three years — but it was a cold one. Abdullah scolded her for not wearing gloves and for not covering her eyes with a mesh.

“Every time I tried to give him a big hug, he would move away,” she said. “It was like he disapproved of me and what I stood for.”

Less than a week after they returned to Sana’a, Abdullah was killed in fighting with security forces.