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Saudi wife angered after husband compares her to car

Woman left husband, taking her children to her parents’ house

  • By Habib Toumi, Bureau Chief
  • Published: 15:04 August 19, 2013
  • Gulf News

Manama: A Saudi woman has walked out on her husband after he compared her to the car he bought through a bank loan.

A man familiar with the case said that the husband told his wife in her thirties that he had taken out a loan from a bank before their marriage to buy the car and to pay for her dowry. He added that one loan was enough and that while he expected returns if he ever wanted to get rid of the car, he did not anticipate any if there were similar plans for the wife, Al Weam news site reported. The wife, angered by her husband’s remarks, decided to leave him and take their children back to her parents’ home.

“There are now serious attempts to contain the situation by narrowing gaps and having the husband apologise to his wife,” the man said. “It is very important for spouses to assess and measure the impact of their words before they utter anything. They should be fully aware that they can hurt the dignity of their spouses or make them suffer,” he said.

Most readers sympathised with the wife and insisted on a more considerate attitude from the husband.

However, some readers said that the wife had overreacted and that rushing to a negative decision could end their union and deeply affect the future of their children.

Comments (14)

  1. Added 17:39 August 20, 2013

    Me and my wife started laughing a lot today! is it possible to separate for such small issues- Its normal to shout and quarrel at home, but things subside the same evening. Each day is like a test and experience in any married with it and keep staying together and keep quarreling and arguing to strengthen your relations!!, May god be with you!

    anonumous, Hyderabad, India

  2. Added 15:50 August 20, 2013

    If the man had to take out a loan to get married and buy a car, then he wasn't fit to be married and having to deal with expenses of bringing up a family in the first place. You see, the wife didn't marry him, she married whoever paid her dowry. His comment about getting returns on a loan someone else gave him shows he is not a good money manager. It's the expectation of the one lending to expect returns. It's the husband's responsibility to pay it off. The wife is doing well in separating, otherwise the man will bring her and the kids to ruin. So neither the car nor the wife are his to begin with. If the loans are not fully paid then she is entitled to leave. That does not mean the man is not responsible for the welfare of the children.

    Sonia Garrett, Munich, Germany

  3. Added 15:35 August 20, 2013

    If I received a dollar for every time i said something stupid to my wife, I'd have enough to buy out this guy's loan, buy him a new car and buy myself a new car. Married couples will fight and disagree, it's just normal. This case didn't need to reach the press, as that type of action causes embarassment for one or both parties, and it's that type of thing that causes escalation and prevention of a reunion. But good luck to the couple, it's only by overcoming all these problems that a relationship becomes stronger than before. May god guide you in everything. Just say Bismillah and trust in god.

    nasim khaled, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  4. Added 15:00 August 20, 2013

    I can understand with the wife being angry but to walk out of a relationship that has had children!!!! I mean obviously she has stayed long enough to know him by now and that perhaps he did not mean it in a wrong way???

    Satish, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  5. Added 14:11 August 20, 2013

    Total overreaction on the wife's part!!! Can't people joke around anymore...I get the feeling she's just using this as an excuse.

    Verity, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  6. Added 13:52 August 20, 2013

    And this has made the news headline??

    Debbie, dubai, United Arab Emirates

  7. Added 13:36 August 20, 2013

    Why this incident became so important!!! First of all society should learn to respect women, she is also a human not animal; treat her well , she can be a good wife, good mother, good lady... if not you can not build a good society.

    Neeta, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  8. Added 12:33 August 20, 2013

    The wife should be flattered. The Arabs really love their cars and take good care. They spend a lot of money on their vehicles!

    Norman, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  9. Added 12:27 August 20, 2013

    It seems she already made up her mind and was waiting for a reason to react....this kind of womans don't really appreciate the healthy support of husbands in all other matters of life but pin point minor issues to be dragged and end up with release and prove themselves right....

    Ali, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  10. Added 12:20 August 20, 2013

    Very Good Article.....

    Anees, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

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