A couple of tips to keep marriages on course

OK, when husbands and wives play together, it doesn't have to be a competitive or an adversarial situation, but I wonder how many husbands don't play golf with their wives because they know somebody's 9-iron might get wrapped around somebody's neck. Or maybe the other way around - wives who won't play golf with their husbands.

I'm thinking about this as I play the Women's Golf Middle East weekly evening golf this week at the Emirates Golf Club, when I was paired up with Marina Pretorius. Instead of renting a trolley, Marina brought her caddy - none other than her husband! I thought to myself, this is going to be very interesting!

I have to say I was impressed and pleasantly surprised! Andre, an enthusiastic golfer himself, consistently credits his wife, encouraging and supporting her comeback. Gently guiding her through the steps leading up to the next shot, notably choosing his words carefully, indeed a wise man! Needless to say, I asked Marina if she could bring her ‘caddy' again next Sunday, for not only did she come second, I managed third place!

No extreme emotions

I'm not sure what it is about golf which makes it difficult for some couples to get along while playing. However, barring attempted murder, when matters get out of hand, you'd think keeping the peace with your spouse wouldn't be all that difficult. I have devised three rules that will help combat marital discord on the course.

The way to teach your wife how to play golf is to hire a Pro.

I've heard women saying, ‘I like playing golf with my husband as long as he doesn't try to teach me'

Zip it guys - If you know what's good for you.

Shrinks, marriage counsellors, or personal bodyguards can all be used to keep the blows to a minimum on the golf course.

Golfing with your spouse shouldn't develop into a battle. I'd like to see more couples play together and encourage each other on the course. It's a great activity to do together that both are passionate about. You will learn some really important things about each other, it is all about honesty and character on a golf course.

Stronger bonding

I've heard so much about being a golfing widow given the fact that most men play golf with their male buddies, but since more women are taking up golf, you hear the reverse these days.

Whether you are a golfing widow or widower, considering taking up golf could enhance your marital bond. Playing golf as a couple cements the love and respect for each other and deepens friendship. An 18-hole golf course allows couples the chance to talk uninterrupted for at least four hours in a relaxing environment, quality time spent together that we rarely get to enjoy in today's rat race.

While it is fun to play together as a couple, remember to keep up the pace of play and follow the rules and etiquette.

So, the next time your spouse asks you to play a round of golf - head out and get ready to tee-off!