Portal for the NEONATE

You think a tween is too young to have a MySpace page? That debate is so 10-minutes-ago. Soon there will be a site meant for children from birth to the age of 5. Think of it as Facebook for toddlers.

On June 24, TotSpot made its debut in the United States. On the site, mums and dads can create free pages about their children, posting photos and videos and dates of their first smiles, first steps and first day at kindergarten.

They can invite friends and relatives — and even parents of other babies from the play group — to view them. Very similar to Facebook.

Harvard inventors

TotSpot is the brainchild of — who else? — two Harvard grads in their twenties from the class of 2007. They were convinced the world needs yet another social networking site, this one for the bib-and-bottle-tending crowd.

“The network of friends that you would share things with professionally could be different from the network of people you want to share stuff about your children,'' explains Adam Katz, who is from Long Island.

Katz started the website with Michael Broukhim of Los Angeles, whom he met at the Harvard University campus newspaper. The two wanted to do something entrepreneurial after graduation.

“We got a sense that parents wanted a very simple and easy way to share stuff with their friends,'' Katz says. There won't be ads on the children's pages; Katz says they hope to profit from turning sites into keepsake books.

Seven-month-old Maddox Wohl of Plainview already has a page because his mother is one of the people who were invited to preview the site when it was working out its kinks for its launch.

“I absolutely love it,'' says Maddox's mum, Meredith Allison-Wohl, 35. “It's the greatest idea ever. I really wish I had thought of it. My family's always bugging me, ‘Send pictures, send pictures'.''

She says she feels much more comfortable posting videos of Maddox to share with far-flung relatives on TotSpot than when she posted them on YouTube so family members in New Jersey and Florida could see them.

Privacy respected

Only invited family and friends can view the page and its contents, Katz says. Users don't have to worry about that competitive preschool finding out their toddler didn't walk until he was 2, for instance.

Or that their child went wild and smeared cupcake icing on her midriff at a birthday party. In a way, TotSpot is formatted like an online baby book.

Allison-Wohl posted, for instance, the first day that Maddox stood up. She'll be able to post his first word and fill in an online growth chart.

She posted where his name came from (not Brad and Angelina's son) and what his name would have been if he'd been a girl (Talia or Layla).

All the people who are Maddox's “friends'' on TotSpot can get an e-mail notification every time Allison-Wohl posts something new about Maddox.

If he goes to Gymboree class, for instance, she can post pictures and tag other TotSpot users to let them know if their children are in any of the photos. “It's addicting,'' Allison-Wohl says.

Phenomenal idea

Larry Rosen, author of the 2007 book Me, MySpace, and I: Parenting the Net Generation, called TotSpot “a phenomenal idea. It does what the internet is supposed to do — which is to find ways to bring people closer.''

It also helps parents to understand what social networking is all about — in preparation for the days when their now-babies will become 7- and 8-year-olds who want to play on their own sites, such as Club Penguin.

“There is much fear that has built up around social networking'', Rosen says, which such a site can help dispel.

The network could help parents looking for a support group, says Justine Cassell, director of the Centre for Technology and Social Behaviour at Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois.

The centre studies the impact of new technologies on society. If a parent posts a notice that her child just took her first step, it's not likely that viewers will respond with, “So?

Every child walks,'' Cassell says. Instead, they will offer their congratulations. “That's going to feel good to the parents.''

The friends and families? They are totally on board. Well, at least speaking for Maddox's grandmother in New Jersey.

Kin love it too

“Are you kidding? I love it,'' says Maddox's maternal grandmother, Laurie Allison of Barnegat, New Jersey.

“I play the videos whenever I just want a little cheering up. It's really great. Especially when he's not around the corner.''

AWARENESS

Gel-check before inviting to view the child's page

Think before you invite. “Make sure you fall in with the right crowd,'' says Justine Cassell, director of the Centre for Technology and Social Behaviour at Northwestern University — meaning parents who are more collaborative than competitive.

You don't want to feel bad if your child says his first word later than everyone else's.

Don't be offended if people don't drop everything to look: While TotSpot gives you the ability to alert friends and family by e-mail every time you post something, don't be hurt if people don't immediately check the site. (When parents log in, they will see who's recently looked at the site.)

Help others and let them help you. “Parenting is one of those places where we're all scared we're going to do a bad job,'' Cassell says.

Sometimes people share mundane details of their day — “I still can't get Mary to sleep through the night,'' for instance — as a thinly veiled hope for reassurance.

“We want to feel a sense of sharing when things are difficult,'' Cassell says.