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Muslim girl refuses to marry dowry-seeking groom

As a tribute to girls’ courage, the elders at her village vow not to give dowry to grooms in future

  • By LATA RANI Correspondent
  • Published: 17:23 October 21, 2013
  • Gulf News

Patna: A Muslim girl from Bihar on Sunday refused to marry a local man after the groom’s family sought a hefty dowry in lieu of solemnisation of marriage.

Fatima Firdausi, from Chakhasim village in eastern Bihar’s Munger district, has become a star overnight for her bold initiative to outright reject the marriage.

In support of her courage, the elders at this village have now vowed not to give dowry to grooms in future.

As per the report, Fatima’s marriage had been fixed with a man who has a government job. The marriage procession was scheduled to arrive at her village on Sunday and everyone in the family was busy making arrangements to welcome guests when suddenly the groom’s side put a dowry demand of Rs1 million (Dh60,000) before the bride’s family, leaving everyone stunned.

But, Fatima removed their concern soon after when she refused to marry her suitor, earning her huge acclaim from all quarters.

“Dowry is a bigger evil for the society and every girl from the country should raise their voice against it,” she told a local news channel after rejecting the marriage proposal.

Her family members and even entire villagers are quite happy at her bold act. “She has done us proud in the society. I am proud of my child,” the girl’s father Abdul Ahad said. Her brother Mohammad Chand Qaisar also expressed happiness over it.

“The boy’s side called us and sought a dowry of Rs1 million saying he is employed in a government job.

“We were really quite disturbed at the sudden demand but our sister has inspired all. Now we will together fight the evil of dowry,” said Qaiser.

Bihar State Women Commission chairperson Kehkesan Perveen congratulated Fatima on her bold initiative and asked all girls to take lessons from her. “The demon of dowry will never be wiped out until the girls themselves come out and boycott families seeking dowries,” said Perveen.

The rejection of marriage over dowry is perhaps the first such case in the rather orthodox Muslim society.

Comments (20)

  1. Added 16:26 October 22, 2013

    To Salim, Dubai. In Islam no one has a rite to ask Dowry. In deed it is prohibited. Giving as a Gift to his Daughter from parents wealth, it is up to them. But Groom or his family members cannot demand at all. In this story clearly mention the Groom side demanded One Million Rupees.

    Lankan, Jeddah, Saudi Arabia

  2. Added 15:58 October 22, 2013

    MASHA'ALLAH...i'm really proud of the courage shown by the girl and sincerely pray that this evil is eradicated from the world. i know many girls back home suffering because they couldn't fulfill the ever growing demands of the groms side even after marriage. DOWRY IS AN UN-ISLAMIC PRACTISE.i wish few men here take an initiative to spread the message to fellow brethren. JAZAK ALLAH

    MARIA, KHAN, United Arab Emirates

  3. Added 15:40 October 22, 2013

    I respect all people who take good decisions. Moral is always same and greed is curse so if anyone builds a relation on this base then how can that relation run?

    imran khan, al ain UAE, Pakistan

  4. Added 14:38 October 22, 2013

    mashaallaah, May Allah bless her,and reward her with a good, handsome and rich husband,as she has not gone against islamic teachings,i always wished for this action,alhamdulillaah.

    hannuuna, sharjah, United Arab Emirates

  5. Added 14:12 October 22, 2013

    I am really proud of her bold decision, her encourament realy remarkable Every gril should come out as like her with bold decision. Thansk, Mosharef Hossain from swandip, chittagong ,Bangladesh

    Mosharef Hossain, Chittagong, Bangladesh

  6. Added 14:06 October 22, 2013

    I would like to thank the Gril personaly, I have been seeking a Girl as like her to be her spoue.

    MD. Sahid Ahmed, Assam, India

  7. Added 13:51 October 22, 2013

    You made us proud Fatima and Allaha bless you.

    abbas, dubai, United Arab Emirates

  8. Added 13:47 October 22, 2013

    Dowry is not Evil, its not a price of the Bride, its given as a gift to her, dont misjudge that because of some unique cases.

    salim, Dubai, United Arab Emirates

  9. Added 13:33 October 22, 2013

    fathima has really made all the indian girls proud. inshallah she will definitely get a very good husband and as for the groom's family he should be punished and should be terminated from his job.

    khursheed, abu dhabi, United Arab Emirates

  10. Added 13:29 October 22, 2013

    Dowry is definitely an evil in today's Indian society and I think it is only practiced only in the Indian subcontinent. Marriage is not only a requirement for women, men also need support and children. But girls if think seriously, this unfair custom can be stopped. Personally I had not worn only very gold ornaments in my marriage compared to anyone of our status in Kerala even though my parents would have given me easily 150 pavan. This was a tough decision especially in our village area, but I think I contributed my little part to the society by not wearing gold.

    S, dubai, United Arab Emirates

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