Cemetery suicide shocks Indians

Jobless Indian expat on visit visa may have spent a couple of nights in the graveyard

  • Tragic end: Arun had come to Dubai on a visit visa and was looking for a jobImage Credit: Supplied photo
  • Macabre find: The old cemetery opposite Dubai Creek where Arun’s body was discovered hanging from a tree on ApImage Credit: Pankaj Sharma/XPRESS
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Dubai: A jobless Indian has committed suicide in a cemetery in Dubai, leaving the community stunned and shaken.

Social workers said Arun S.R, 32, may have spent a couple of nights at the old cemetery in Bur Dubai, opposite Dubai Creek, before hanging himself from a tree on April 24. His body was handed over to his family in Peroorkada of Thiruvananthapuram in Kerala on May 30.

Uma Padmanabhan, a Dubai-based social worker, told XPRESS a cleaner in the area noticed the body at the cemetery and informed the police. “The victim had nothing on him except his pyjamas, a pair of slippers and a wristwatch. We are told that a blanket and a pillow were also recovered from the site.”

She said the man had got a new passport on February 13 and had come to Dubai on a visit visa on March 3. “We recovered the passport from the Dubai Courts. His visa had expired and he had no accommodation, food or money with him.” It was not immediately clear why the passport was at Dubai Courts.

Padmanabhan said she helped complete the death formalities with the Indian Consulate after obtaining a notarised authorisation from his family. The Indian Community Welfare Committee (ICWC) gave her an air ticket to fly with the man’s body and hand it over to his family, she added.

Arun’s brother Krishna Kumar told XPRESS from Kerala that the victim was a computer diploma holder and was working with a Dubai bank three years ago but returned home in 2012 when he lost his job. He was looking for a new job when he ended his life.

Kumar said Arun was the eldest of three siblings and was earlier married to an air hostess with an Indian airline. “The couple is separated now. It’s just me, my sister and our mother in the family. Our father is not alive.”

Main breadwinner

Kumar, who works as an ‘office staff’ with a private firm, said his brother was the main breadwinner of the family.

“My sister is still studying and we are all in shock. We cannot believe he could do something like this. He was a good man with a good personality,” he said.

Padmanabhan said the last Arun spoke to his family was on April 14, the Hindu New Year Day, when he told his mother that he would return to Kerala only after he had found a job. But that was not to be.

“The family is not well off and the mother is appealing for any help she can get,” she added.

The news of Arun’s death has shocked the expat community in the UAE which is yet to come to terms with the fact that he chose a cemetery and end his life.

Social workers are flummoxed as to how the man entered the cemetery which is located next to the British Embassy. “He must have slipped in during the night, otherwise he would have easily been spotted,” said Padmanabhan.

C.P. Mathew, founder of the NGO Valley of Love, said: “It has been many years since the public cemetery shifted to Sonapur. Few know about this place, so it is surprising how he went there.”

extreme despair

From a ps ychologist’s point of view, any suicide in a cemetery is considered a reflection of an extreme sense of despair. Dr Rory McCarthy, Clinical Psychologist, said: “I would not like to comment on this case because I do not know the circumstances, but generally speaking, a man in a black hole can go to any extent. When the mood is dark and desperate, he is drawn to morbid places and situations. He believes he doesn’t deserve to be happy.

“A suicide in a cemetery could mean the person did not have any desire to be saved.”

Mathew said: “We come across many cases of depression and desperation. But suicide is not the answer.”

According to a 2011 Dubai Police report, over 70 per cent of the suicides were committed by Indians. In 2012, 72 Indians committed suicide in Dubai and the northern emirates.

The Indian Consulate did not respond to queries by XPRESS despite several reminders.

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  • Raymond

    06-Jun-2013 15:36

    The Indian Consulate not wanting to respond as reported by you is no surprise.. They do not even respond to the cries of their own distressed countrymen... I know I've lived through their apathy and indifference and can write volumes..

  • Anon

    06-Jun-2013 14:56

    Sad but true speaking from experience, it is mostly the one's who survive (survivor of the fittest) here are theone's who are mostly crafty and corrupt. On the job front influence plays a major role.

  • Imad Tabara

    06-Jun-2013 14:45

    Why do so many Indians commit suicide? Everytime in the news.

  • Zaheena Begum

    06-Jun-2013 14:18

    Any story such as this one is very saddening. Lots of people today go through unbearable circumstances. lack of visas and joblessness have caused many to go into despair. However suicide is not the answer. Why do so many Indians commit suicide? Is it their belief in reincarnationthat makes suicide such an easy outlet? Muslims believe that a person lives only once and after death, we are in a transitory condition until Judgment Day. Muslims also believe that those who commit suicide will be in Hell forever since giving life and death are the right of God alone. Hindus believe that after death, the person is reincarnated. Thus a Hindu in troublesome circumstances is more likely to commit suicide. It's important to look into the beliefs and address reasons that make suicide an easy getaway.

  • Sathish Kumar

    06-Jun-2013 14:10

    The new generation keeps dreaming about gulf counties assuming it is easy to find jobs and getting into higher positions. They don't realize the effort, hard work and the struggle behind those who they compare and callHEROS. I have the same sincere advice to all my brothersand sisters . If you are educated; and if you have goodwill.please try to find a job in your mother country. Otherwise be prepared to lose many things. And pledge this moment 'I HAVE NO AMBITION.. I AM WITH NO SUPPORT.. AND I WILL LIVE WITH NO SUPPORT AND AMBITION. I JUST WANT TO SURVIVE. Gulf is for them!

  • Molly

    06-Jun-2013 13:45

    Truly sad and depressing. Can't imagine what must have been on that poor guys' mind. Who brought him to this country and left him on his own to suffer? So many poor Indians are in a soup due to financial problems hardships. What is the consulate doing for them? Why we don't hear such stories among other nationals because they get better jobs; better facilities in this country? He spent his last dayswith ghosts but who cares about him it will be just another passing cloud in a matter of days...I wish this does not repeat with any other Indian.

  • SYED J.HUQ

    06-Jun-2013 13:28

    Suicide is not the answer and solution to the problem. To Put Up and fight the problems with courage is the answer. Only COWARDS who do not want to fight and face the problems commit suicide.

  • Osman

    06-Jun-2013 12:45

    I think there is no space for New Persons. I would like to say all my friends and brothers don't come here for jobs. Because here only experienced candidates can be accommodated.

  • puta

    06-Jun-2013 12:18

    Nobody helps anybody I have read about the valley of love or some other social workers - they do not help when you go to them beg them and tell them your story. Also they will not listen I have my own experience with the social people in Dubai they never helped me i lost my job andlost my everthing here in Dubai i went to them and asked help but they didn't. I have to spend 5 years in jail and at last returen home but by the time i lost my family and everthing See this social people will not do any thing until some newspaper come to then and ask and then they do some thing so that their name come in the newspaper that they have done this and that; I do not believe all this social people and feel that they are all fake

  • Priyacivin

    06-Jun-2013 11:50

    It is highly appreciated that Ms. Uma Padmanabam helped Arun's Family by handing over the body to his family members. It is humble request to the Indian Counsulate that they should take care of people comming from india and facing problems.

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The Indian Consulate not wanting to respond as reported by you is no surprise.. They do not even respond to the cries of their own distressed countrymen... I know I've lived through their apathy and indifference and can write volumes..

Raymond

6 June 2013 15:56jump to comments