Some tips from psychologists on how to focus on quality time with your children:
Little things are big — The time you spend with your children does not need to include expensive activities. Riding a bicycle, reading a book or going out to the beach will allow you to spend quality time with your children.
Disconnect to connect — When you are with your children, make sure they have your undivided attention. If you are on the phone or with friends while they play on their own, the time you spend won’t benefit your relationship.
The powerful three — According to Dr Mary John, clinical psychologist, there are three crucial parts of the day when parents need to be around: when they wake up in the morning, when they come back from school and before they go to bed. Positive enforcement during these times can build a strong bond.
Remember to tuck them in — Nights are usually the time when a child feels vulnerable and insecure so do not be content with your nanny taking them to bed. Read them a story, give them a hug and kiss them good night to make sure that is the last thing they remember before going into dream land.
Maintain contact — Even if you are unable to see them throughout the work week, staying in touch can overcome this physical absense. Send them a short message, if you are out of the country take time out for a five-minute online video conference with them. Little reminders that you are thinking of them will go a long way in building their sense of security.
Take a preventative approach — if you know that you might start spending more time at work, sit down with your child and explain it to them. Discussing the changes with them and deciding how you can spend quality time together will help build mutual trust and respect.
