Don't react in anger...
"When faced with a parenting disaster, take time to stop, calm down and think of a suitable response that will not hurt the child. Later, when you have calmed down, ask yourself, ‘How can I do it differently next time?' This will prevent you from repeating recurring patterns of behaviour that may harm your child, or teach an undesirable reaction."
Be prepared...
"Don't be afraid to set clear limits. When these limits are not adhered to, have some predictable back-up strategies, which will teach children to behave in the future."
Praise often...
"Recognise good behaviour by using descriptive praise, giving non-verbal forms of attention, being available to your children, spending time with them, and showing them lots of affection."
Feel happier...
"Positive parenting helps parents feel more confident and competent in their parenting abilities, reduces conflict within the family, and creates a more relaxed family life."
Notice the good...
"Choosing to regularly give attention to your child's desirable behaviours is the single most important change a parent can make to their parenting. So, withdraw attention to misbehaviour and give a lot of attention to behaviours you like. Being praised for being good is much more instructive than being admonished for being ‘bad'."
Model behaviour...
"Teach consideration of others by listening, taking turns, waiting while people are busy, helping people, being friendly and welcoming, and asking what others would like to do."
Set them free...
"Empower your children by teaching them independence and life skills. When children can do things for themselves, they feel a sense of control and empowerment. This also teaches a sense of responsibility and will help build self-esteem."
Therese Sequeira is a parenting educator at KidsFIRST. For workshop info email therese@parentingdubai.com
