HOW TO AVOID MISREADING BODY SIGNALS
People who don’t tell the truth have increasing hand to face contact, especially hand to nose, as soft tissue in the nose swells as a result of increase in blood pressure that leads to a slight tingling feeling around the nose when someone is lying.
However Pease informs that the interpretation could prove incorrect as the person may just be suffering from sinus. The rule is to always look for a ‘cluster’ (at least three gestures) within the context and given circumstances when making a decision. “If I say I always read your paper and I touch my nose, I hear you speak about your paper and start tagging at my ear and then say I have certainly enjoyed the interview and close my eyes and start shaking my head. That’s at least three signals within the circumstances, so you’ll think ‘this guy, I don’t trust him, I don’t believe him’. But if the first time I touched my nose, I might have been lying or I might have had an itchy nose or sinus trouble.”
MAKING A FAVOURABLE IMPRESSION DURING AN INTERVIEW
Workplace dynamics have changed over the years. According to Pease, today recruiters worldwide prefer to employ candidates with effective people skills rather than qualification and work experience. “HR in most countries across the world hired on education and experience 30 years ago. Now they don’t. The number one thing they are looking for is personal appearance. Do you look like the sort of person that can fit in, that I can give to my clients, my customers, to work with my staff? The other thing they are looking for is, do I personally like you? Do you have people’s skills and connect with me. Education and experience come further down the track.”
He advises prospective job seekers to keep the following points in mind to attain success at an interview.
1. Dress for the interview as though you already have the job.
2. Understand that you are on stage from the time you arrive in the car park.
3. Choose to stand in the reception area — it keeps your clothes in good condition.
4. Practise carrying papers in your left hand. Most people shake hands, open doors and hold cold drinks in the right hand, switching papers from one hand to the other at a critical time can make an interviewee appear clumsy.
5. When you shake hands, keep the palm straight and give the same pressure as you receive.
BODY LANGUAGE DURING INTERVIEWS
Avoid crossing arms and legs, and lacing fingers together, Pease advises. “If your mother or father held your hand when you were little and under stress, as an adult when you feel the same — and in a job interview you will feel stress — you are likely to hold hands with yourself as it’s comforting. But someone who is looking at you will think you are not confident. Instead practise “steepling” – bring the tips of your fingers together.
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