It would be really nice to have a spouse who just gets me, who has a charming smile, is charismatic and can also make me laugh. I would love to meet somebody who is ambitious, a good planner but also spontaneous. What a treat to marry someone who enjoys the same taste in music, food and can talk for hours but also really listens. I hope that he can support and take care of me as the man of the house but also give me the freedom to travel and treat me as an equal decisionmaker every step of the way.
Common values are everything! How else will we create a healthy environment for our children to be raised? I want somebody who will prioritise me above all else but also gives me the space to grow and be my own self. The man I will marry will be soulful, and all my friends and family will love him. It wouldn’t kill if he loved children, and travelling the world either.
Do our modern-day expectations set our relationships up for failure? Not to say that all of those qualities are unrealistic, as most of them individually form special bonds with another person, but do we need to have them all with one individual? Let’s say the expectation was shared. What if we shared the same taste in music and enjoyed our favorite shows with our siblings, went on spontaneous adventures and explored restaurants with our best friends and engaged in soulful discussions with our parents? What if we then only looked for the click factor when choosing our life partners, and figured the rest of it out through love, appreciation of what we get, communication of what we don’t and an expectation that’s only human?
What if we understood that Mr. Perfect has something to offer, and that something is his all? What if instead of expecting a perfect spouse, we worked on a perfect picture consisting of a group of individuals who enrich our lives? And in that wholesome portrait found all the people who hold our hands through to our very old days.
- The reader is an Emirati marketing specialist based in Dubai.
