Raymond Panganiban, computer programmer
“I lost my job in February and was jobless for two months. I was able to deal with it because God had somehow prepared me for it. At that time, we were preparing and studying a topic on “Do Not Worry” for our Homiletics class at church. Every time I had free time, I kept myself busy reading books, mainly [books on Christianity] and the Bible, and I would also relax my mind whenever I could by hiking and playing computer games. The sad part is, every time I applied for a job, the offer was way below what my qualifications deserved. I was rejected by three companies but I somehow wasn’t in despair because I had my wife and church family by my side. Finally, when God provided me with a job, it turned out to be beyond my expectations. So it really doesn’t pay to worry.”
Shella Tolentino, human resource personnel
“My mum died in her sleep in 2015 and thinking about it now just brings back so many memories and grief. The pain of losing a loved one, especially your mother, can never be erased, not because you’re still hurting that she’s gone but because you miss being with her. I wasn’t able to look at my mum’s pictures and videos when she died and that went on for a while. All throughout, my family and close friends stood by me and helped me deal with the pain through prayer. I learnt to cope with my loss when I decided to focus on the assurance that my mum is in a better place and that she is no longer in pain.”
Rajeev Pillai, admin and financial manager
Personal loss can be very stressful. I lost my brother last year. I give vent to my emotions only when I am alone. In front of family and friends, I need to keep a brave front. Earlier, when I got angry, I would lose control but with age and experience, I have learnt to control my anger. One of my acquaintances told me to avoid reacting immediately in such situations. So I take a break. But when I feel something is unfair, I do speak my mind. Some stress is unavoidable [in life] and I have started considering it as a part of my body. It will be with me just like any other [body] organ.
Shiny Shajudheen, sales support coordinator
“I’m a person who believes in time as the ultimate healer. So when something hits me bad, I initially cut off from everything. Then I try to make up my mind to face it since life has to go on. I pray and leave things to God. I usually try to avoid a situation which I feel will lead to problems — whether it is with my family, friends or colleagues. When I feel stressed, I find solace in music and dance. Having fun with my best friends over the weekend releases a lot of stress as does watching my favourite comedy shows. I also go for a run in the morning. I believe it releases happiness hormones ... and I feel good after running.”
