G*Nice: It's all about making the connection

No one should ever come to me for any kind of life advice. But I do think that I have understood one magical trick to make every day as rosy as can be. I have learnt that by presenting myself as an open person to others, I have been able to reap rewards that bring constant pleasure that we can measure like treasure!

What I am saying is that I've discovered being willing to break the ice with people is the trick to making the world spin like the rims on a rapper's ride!

I can hear many of you immediately thinking that it's a personality thing, and if you are a confident outgoing person it just comes easy. That is true to a degree but it's not an excuse to hide behind if you are a more reserved individual. We all have the ability to make that first move and start to break down the barriers. They say that you can't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket. The ticket in this case is not to wait for others to make the first move towards making that connection.

On a recent trip to London I realised it has a far more outgoing social environment than we have here. Maybe it's because it's more of a ‘street' society - so much life happens in the open air, with people walking around going about their daily routine. Conversation surrounds you and all you need to do is step up and be part of it. It's really liberating to have the feeling that even if you're alone you can make yourself part of the big picture by just opening up. For everyone out there doing social networking online, it's a simple case of taking what you do on your keyboard and transferring it to the real world.

Ms G*Nice is the complete opposite of me, and can be best described as shy, which is probably why we are such good companions. She is the chalk to my cheese. It was her first time in London and she felt quite overwhelmed by the energy of the city. I was striding around chatting to complete strangers in Notting Hill Market, haggling over T-shirts or just indulging people in conversations for the sake of it.

When she asked me why I do it, I had no answer other than, "Why not?" It costs nothing, unlike everything else in London, and for me it enriches any experience and just makes it more fun. It feels like the video game Tetris, where rather than existing like a long block falling into an empty space, you guide your block towards others so that you make connections. The more connections you make - even in mundane situations - means that as the day passes you start to feel like you have built a block of existence that you can feel is ‘real'.

Out-There-ingly Yours
G*Nice